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WHY' FINDING YOURSELF ' AFTER DIVORCE IS OVERRATED ADVICE

EYITEMI SAMUEL Season 1 Episode 9

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If you've been stuck journaling about your "authentic self" for months while life passes you by, this episode will shake up everything you think you know about post-divorce recovery. Host Temi Samuel challenges the most popular (and paralyzing) advice given to divorced women and reveals why endless self-discovery is actually sabotaging your progress.

In this eye-opening conversation, you'll discover why "finding yourself" keeps you trapped in analysis paralysis instead of living your actual life, and why the search for your "one true self" is based on a fundamentally flawed premise. Temi explains how this seemingly empowering advice has become a socially acceptable way to avoid taking risks and making the scary-but-necessary decisions that rebuild your life.

You'll learn:

  • Why there's no "authentic self" waiting to be excavated
  • How to shift from "finding yourself" to "creating yourself"
  • Why action teaches you more about who you are than any amount of introspection
  • Practical ways to move forward even when you don't have perfect clarity
  • How to rebuild confidence in your decision-making through experience, not endless reflection

If you're tired of waiting for cosmic certainty about who you are before taking your next step, this episode will give you permission to start building the person you want to become - starting today.

Perfect for: Women who've been stuck in "self-discovery mode" and are ready to take imperfect action toward their new life.

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