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THE DIFFICULT TRUTH -YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN THE PROBLEM TOO IN YOUR MARRIAGE

EYITEMI SAMUEL Season 1 Episode 4

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Ready for the most uncomfortable conversation in divorce recovery? In this episode, we're diving deep into a topic that requires courage: examining your own contributions to your marriage problems.

This episode is NOT for women who were abused, manipulated, or genuinely victimized. But if you've been honest with yourself and know that your marriage problems weren't entirely one-sided, this conversation is for you.

Host Temi Samuel tackles the difference between victim-blaming and healthy self-reflection, exploring common patterns like:

  • Avoiding conflict until you explode
  • Expecting your partner to read your mind
  • Using emotional manipulation to get your way
  • Mothering your partner then resenting the mental load
  • Losing yourself in the relationship

This isn't about self-flagellation or taking all the blame. It's about reclaiming your power by taking responsibility for the parts that were actually yours—so you can do better next time.

You'll learn the difference between healthy self-reflection and destructive self-blame, plus get practical guidance on examining your communication patterns, emotional regulation, and boundary-setting skills.

The bottom line: Taking responsibility for your part isn't self-blame—it's self-empowerment. And it might be the key to creating the healthy relationship you actually want.

Warning: This episode requires nuance, compassion, and courage. Come prepared for an honest conversation that could change how you approach future relationships.

The Restart Academy Podcast is for divorced women rebuilding their lives after devastating divorces. No toxic positivity, just real conversations about the messy truths of healing and starting over.




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